Listening and Stonework

When I speak of listening in this context, I am referring to the act which brings you to the present moment, the awareness which allows the stone to simply be, and the understanding that your role as stone-worker is one of facilitator.

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This type of listening relies on all of your senses being attuned not only to your present outer environment, but also your inner space. When I build with a clear mind and heart, it allows me to listen to stone in a way that is not accessible when I am busy thinking about other things. For the sake of this article I will call this deep listening.

 

For those of you who have worked in the craft for many years and developed a familiarity with it, you have most likely reached a point where the physical actions of building are second nature. That is, when you swing a hammer or pick up a stone, you aren’t engaging your conscious mind to make this happen. You simply pick up the stone, pick a line and cut it, place it in the wall, etc. When you are in this state of openness when building, it allows deeper intention to come through into your work. I have found that this state of flow and space really only comes with practice and experience. It is hard to settle into this kind of rhythm when you are new at something as it engages the part of your mind which needs to lay things out and go over the steps multiple times before committing to an action.

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What becomes possible after you have reached this point of familiarity with the materials and process is something much greater than one might think. It is, in fact, more of a place of allowing than thinking. Most of the time we have a running commentary in our thoughts about the things that make up our lives. This is the mental chatter that can fill up every moment in the day. I suggest that as you work and find your place in the flow of the day, this can be an opportunity to invite in the wise part of yourself to the job. As you are swinging the hammer and laying stone, instead of using that mental space to think of something or somebody else, consciously invite your wisdom to come forth. Allow that part of yourself that knows without question, that trusts in the process and in the inherent good in your heart to come forth. Open the doorway to the part of you that other people love and celebrate to be a part of the work you are creating.

This is the opportunity we have when we allow the silence within to hold the space for who we are. I find that only through deep listening is this part of us accessed. Building can be a meditation of a different kind, and through our movements we can bring forth the deeper joy of making something beautiful and useful.

Acknowledging Stone as if it Matters

Acknowledgement is an incredible gift that most of us practice on some level in our everyday lives. In the simplest of ways when you acknowledge someone for who they are or what they do, it allows their own energy to brighten and creates a deeper connection between the two of you. We have all had times in our lives when someone else’s words of acknowledgment had a profound impact on us and may have even changed the course of our life.

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This simple act can also be applied to “inanimate objects”. It is my understanding that when our attention is placed on something, it changes. So why not use this in a positive way? Stone, before it is quarried or harvested, carries the connection and energy of the earth and to all life on it. In some sense, stone IS the earth, and the minerals we carry in our bodies come partly from stone. This connection already exists and acknowledgement of it strengthens and clarifies it. For instance, once stone is taken from the earth and handled, transported, bought and sold, it takes on the energies of the people doing this work. Since this process is usually not done in a conscious way that acknowledges the earth connection, the original energy that the stone carries “goes to sleep”. You can think of it in the same way as with another person. If their work or beingness or gifts are not acknowledged, that person is most likely to withdraw their presence.

Stone is the same in this way. It is not personal, as if you hurt the stone’s feelings, it is just the nature of energy transfer. When that stone is acknowledged for what it is, it allows the natural connection to the earth to radiate as it once did. The process of extracting anything from the earth without permission, gratitude, intention or acknowledgment further creates separation from everything we surround ourselves with. This is why it feels so good to be in nature, as this connection has not been broken.

When we build with stone, we always do a blessing after the stone has arrived onsite and before we begin moving and working with it. This is something I encourage you to try for yourself. We find it is good to thank the stone for its presence and to ask permission to work with it. We like to apologize if the stone has been handled in a disrespectful manner and to ask its original energies and connection to return to the surface. We like to acknowledge that the stone is a living being and brings its own intelligence to the project. We find it is helpful to listen. This blessing is something that is best done in your own words and with sincerity. Make it your own and see what happens. If you are open and sit quietly you will most likely feel the stone brighten and become easier to work with once the blessing is done. Please keep in mind that the key part in this equation is YOU. If you bring your power and grounded presence to this process, the stone will respond in-kind. One suggestion to get yourself into a good space is to sit quietly for a few moments and feel gratitude for your own life, the stone, the work, your clients, etc. This will help you to flow into the blessing in a more comfortable way.

If you are having a hard time finding your own words for this dialogue, here’s an example of what we do. We do this at the beginning of every job before we start moving the stone. We also spray/sprinkle water on the stone as we say the blessing. This helps to remove other people’s energy from it.

“Greetings, beautiful stone friends. We thank you for being here and for the opportunity to work with you. We ask permission to move you, shape you, and work with you to build this (wall). We pledge to work with you in a mindful way that respects and honors the mountain from which you came, and to listen to your voice as we work. We apologize if you have been removed from your home or handled in any way that was disrespectful or harmful and we invite the energy of the earth that you carry within to radiate completely and fully. Thank you for adding your presence to this (wall) and for working with us.”

Stone is a Mirror in the Present Moment

IMG_4171For many of us, stone engenders a deep love within. There is a kinship, a sense of family, and a connection to the earth below that arises when we meet stone. I always feel a deep sense of home when I work with stone. It commands my full attention and presence and when I don’t show up, I come away with bruised appendages and ego. I feel that stone welcomes our thoughts and ideas when we want to create with it. Stone can make us harder and more aggressive but equally can respond by softening and flowing when you let it in.

For many people who have worked with stone, you know what I am talking about. Stone is an unforgiving teacher. Stone will become enlivened with your passion, your love, your truth, your existence, and will harden with your anger, your frustration, your hate, your aggression. It is a mirror in the present moment. We have a saying when we are working, “When the spirit leaves you, it’s time to go home”. It is an acknowledgment that when you cannot bring your whole self to your work, the work will suffer, and you will suffer along with it. It is not a hard and fast rule, but one that we generally uphold as good practice.

Some days I come to work and everything flows. I swing the hammer with effortless grace, connecting with the chisel or stone, the energy of the swing transferring into the exact cut I was intending. These are days when every stone I place my hands on fits into the wall with the barest effort. As I look through the pile to select a stone, the right stone will call out to me, and it will fit in the perfect place. These days don’t come every day (so far), but when they do, I have learned to treasure them, and to ride that wave for as long as I can. It is in this experience of flow where I find connection to my work and myself. This is where the apparent lines we draw, dissolve, and the worlds bleed through. It is where the beauty that we create and the beauty that we are, meet. This is where stone is my greatest teacher.

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It is in the stillness of our being, where we can access the grandest version of ourselves. If we desire to create something pure, we must not be distracted nor have our minds wander.  We must find the harmonious balance of meditation and creation. For us as stonemasons, this state of being is the ideal.  Whether we are shaping stone or lifting it, our awareness is of the present moment.  Danger looms if we stray from this place.

For a combined 40 years Zach and I have been working with stone, bringing together our practices of meditation and hard work.  We have found a wonderful teacher in stone.  It has taught us patience, caution, humility, and how to work together as a single unit.  Through our relationship with stone, we’ve learned much about ourselves, and how to better relate to others.  Despite what many of us think, moving slowly can bring wonderful rewards. 

The Importance of Temples

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What makes a temple? Is it the walls that contain a sacred space? Is it the energy that is infused into the structure? Or is it just as the individual defines it? The definition of temple that I am working with is a place where one (or many) goes to connect to their experience of divinity. There is no right or wrong way to connect. For some it may be prayer; others, silent contemplation. For some people it may be ecstatic dance or creating art. We all have our preferred way of reconnecting into a place of comfort, joy, deep inner peace, and safety. For many people this is associated with an activity or particular place but ultimately I believe that this place lives inside us. For myself, I reach that place with the intention of going deeper and then letting go into that great mystery, as if slipping into the warm waters of a dark ocean at night. When I begin to feel the current of this great mystery hold me in warmth, I allow it to take me deeper into this awareness.

Although it is not necessary to have a dedicated space for your inner journey, I find that it is helpful to have some place that is familiar and comfortable. A place that feels protected from the chaos of the world and everyday life. Many of us can remember a particular place where we spent time as a child. A refuge from the difficulties of learning about the world and its inhabitants. One particular reason for having a special place to spend time is that you build upon the energy created there. As with any practice that is revisited daily, you create a stronger vessel in which your inner travels take shape. It allows you to slip more easily and more deeply into your sacred connection. This is your temple.

Constructing a dedicated space for this aspect of your life can have a profound impact on every area of your existence. Not only do you have a place to go where you can easily drop in, but having a physical space also allows the energy to build over time and radiate into the space around it. Think of it like a fire in a woodstove that you continually stoke. The warmth from the stove will begin to spread into all areas of your house. This is how energy works, although it is not confined to the same physical laws as heat from a stove. As you build your practice in a dedicated space, it becomes an anchor for your life.

There are many forms that this place can take. It can be a room with a comfortable chair or cushion in which to meditate. It can be a quiet spot in the garden or one with a fountain. It can be a favorite stone with a particularly nice view. The beauty of a spot with stone is that stone has the ability to more easily hold and ground earth energy than human made materials. It allows a direct connection with nature and the earth to be more easily accessible for your connection time. Stone will also anchor and support whatever you are trying to allow or achieve in your life.

Many think of temples as ancient stone structures that are part of another time, partly lost and forgotten. I like to think of temples as personal and welcoming. Places where we go to find answers and comfort. Places where we go to transform and connect more deeply to ourselves and others. They can be quiet or filled with beautiful music. Places for stillness or movement. What brings you closer to a more meaningful life? Where is your temple? What can we build together?